Every once in a while, I think of a question which may or may not have an answer, but seems worth asking anyway. Or I think of something that seems true enough to be categorized anywhere from an observation to a general rule. I’ll bet you do the same thing, even if you haven’t thought about it. When you were a child, these were the things you said that your mother recorded, told everybody else, and used to proved your genius. As an adult, these are the questions and observations you use to teach your children, to show how you think, or to just make sure your mind doesn’t go into neutral. They can be humorous, stupid, profound, false or true, but the one thing they do is give a perspective. And for the most part, I think perspective is interesting.

To develop your own perspective is to hone your personality. To hear other people’s perspecitve is to learn. To tell your own perspective is to invite dialogue, and in my case, to write a column. So, this week I’ll share with you some of my more recent random questions and observations. And you didn’t even have to ask.

Why do some people assume that everyone has more hours in a day to do what needs to be done than they do?

Why is it that when picutres of me look like me, they’re bad pictures and when pictures of me are flattering, they’re good pictures?

Why is it that when people concentrate on what they’re doing, their mouths do funny things? (For example- feeding a baby, serving food, serving a volleyball, studying…)

Why do the most unlovely people need the most love?

Why do people who regularly criticize others find it hard to take criticism?

Why don’t we have to teach children how to be bad?

The most efficient people look the least busy because of that very reason— their efficiency.

Lack of character heightens inability to detect lack of character.

The good thing about a short memory is that you don’t gossip well.

Gossips should not assume their importance in being the relayer of a juicy message— the person they’re talking to, or about, may not respect them enough to care what they say.

The ability to sacrifice is directly related to the kindness of one’s spirit.

Duty without love is drudgery.

When you plan to do something, ask two questions: 1) What do I hope to achieve? 2) Will what I do achieve what I hope? If the answer to number two is uncertain, think through other options and adopt one you can trust.

How you act in a restaurant is how you’re known in the community. (And that includes tipping.)